Category Archives: Abuse

I am but five years old

I am a child and know no pains
I am just five and play but games
I laugh and hop and jump around
I am cheerful, happy and sound.

Along comes a man big and vile
He entices me with a lot of guile
He bruises and hurts me with his penis
He stuffs a candle into my anus

He tries to strangle me and tortures me too
I am bleeding and shocked to say the least
To the police my stunned father runs
The police shake their heads, take no guns

OH society I knew not the meaning of the words that I have used
My mind is a turmoil and I am internally bruised
Why or why can I not be a child!!
OH Society can’t you protect an innocent child?

http://in.reuters.com/article/2013/04/19/india-delhi-rape-protest-idINDEE93I0BI20130419

http://news.yahoo.com/rape-5-old-girl-india-debates-even-stricter-133333506.html

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Rape, the rapist, the raped, gang rapists, the society, Oh Society!

Rape is the violation of a woman’s rights.

Rape is the violation of a female’s body.

Rape only proves the male’s physical superiority.

Rape is nothing but the exercise of brute force.

Rape seeks a criminal outlet for pent up sexual desire.

Rape is a crime that needs to be punished.

A rapist does not realize that he has a right only to his own body.

A rapist ignores the rights of the female concerned.

A rapist lacks self esteem and self confidence.

A rapist has a false view of masculinity.

A rapist steals the freedom of a woman.

A rapist always commits a criminal act.

The raped is a poor innocent child, girl or woman.

The raped has the beauty of youth and is attractive.

The raped is physically abused and mentally traumatized.

The raped feels deserted from all the values of her life.

The raped feels the collapse of the world around her.

The raped feels the isolation and cold air around her.

Gang Rapists do not know how to court a girl.

Gang Rapists have a contorted view of masculinity.

Gang Rapists think its fun, but they are vile.

Gang Rapists seek recognition from their fellow rapists.

Gang Rapists stretch the despair and shock to the victim.

Gang Rapists need to be meted a more severe punishment than a rapist.

Society looks at the woman and points a finger at her.

Society sees not the man who has committed the crime.

Society turns a blind eye and ear to what has happened.

Society has many laws that guarantee her rights.

Society fails to fulfill its commitment to protect her rights.

Society has deserted her and the raped is forlorn.

Oh Society! Laws are useless, if she cannot be protected.

Oh Society! Your law enforcing authorities are full of prejudices.

Oh Society! You need to wake up to today’s reality.

Oh Society! Don’t be backward and archaic.

Oh Society! Don’t turn a blind eye and blame the women

Oh Society! Your laws guarantee her rights. Ensure it and deliver on your commitments.

India’s Anti Rape Bill

Wow, that was faster than I thought possible. Sexual offenders guilty of rape, stalking, voyeurism, acid attacks among others will in future have to reckon with up to 20 years imprisonment, and even life imprisonment or death sentence for repeat offenders. The law forsees that 18 years is the age of consent for sex. The Indian Lower House (Lok Sabha) has just passed an anti rape bill which de facto amounts to an amendment of diverse clauses in various penal laws and regulations. The bill is meant to be a clear deterrent signal that Indian society will not tolerate such crimes. The bill still needs to be passed by the Rajya Sabha (Upper House) which however is not considered problematic.

Well this is definitely a milestone worth registering. It looks like the steadfastness of the various demonstrators, the vehemence of many women’s rights activists, the public outrage and the international reaction to the sexual excesses of the recent past have apparently had their impact.

Now that the Indian legislative organs have amended laws so as to prevent sexual assault, it is now up to the executive and law implementing organs to start doing their job.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/Anti-rape-Bill-gets-Lok-Sabha-nod/articleshow/19072511.cms

http://www.indianexpress.com/news/lok-sabha-passes-antirape-bill-that-threatens-offenders-with-life-in-jail-to-death/1090413/0

http://www.hindustantimes.com/India-news/NewDelhi/Lok-Sabha-passes-anti-rape-bill/Article1-1028961.aspx

Four rapes a day and poor forensic track records

The number of rape cases in New Delhi alone is horrific. There is the case of a XII standard girl who is abducted and raped, a minor rape victim who immolates herself, the attempted rape of a 11 standard girl alone at home just to mention a few. According to statistics there were 572 rapes in 2011 alone, followed by 706 rapes in 2012 reflecting a 23 % rise against 2011 while between January and February 15th 2013 in total 181 rape cases were reported reflecting about 4 rapes a day.

A first conviction and a sentence of a 60 year old school guard for a sexual offense has been announced. That is a good start. But the authorities need to bear in mind that establishing the acquaintanceship between the victim and the rapist in no way reduces the tangibility of rape as a crime. Poor forensic track records are a clear indication that one of the first issues that the law and order authorities need to address is the introduction, use and implementation of modern forensic tools and methods in their investigations. Legal and policing reforms are absolutely necessary if the situation is to be tackled.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/mumbai/60-year-old-school-guard-gets-7-year-jail-for-molesting-child/articleshow/18682626.cms?utm_source=twitter&utm_medium=tweets

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/delhi/Rape-cases-double-in-Delhi-despite-campaigns/articleshow/18831064.cms

The struggle to keep a female child

Mitu Khurana a woman like any other in India. And yet her painful journey through the prejudices and contorted perceptions of Indian society are an eye opener. She like her husband and his family is educated. She is a doctor and yet! She is tricked into having an ultra sound sex determination test during her pregnancy. She was bullied to abort the female fetus (twins) she was carrying when her husband knew they were going to be females. She refused, stood up for her convictions and decided to have her twins in spite of all the family pressure. She filed a law suit.

Female foeticide and infanticide is barbaric. I am a pro-lifer. Education should widen one’s horizon and make one receptive for other views. It is tragic to know that education has in this case not opened the eyes of her husband’s family. As a doctor one knows enough about the chromosomes and that the male determines the gender of a new born. This development really needs to be stopped.

http://www.lifesitenews.com/news/dr.-mitu-khurana-the-defender-of-indias-baby-girls/

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex-selective_abortion

 

A distorted view of masculinity

Many men in India grow up in male dominated surroundings. Based on a patriarchal society with socially and culturally accepted separation of genders, men have little contact with females in the post puberty phase. Due to the lack of if not limited natural interaction with young women they often grow up with false notions about manliness seeing sexual dominance as necessary to show their manliness. One predominant notion that prevails among young men is the concept of “asli admi” ( the Real man) which correlates with among other characteristics the need to be sexually aggressive in order to satisfy women. So the underlying contorted ideas about masculinity among many men in India influences the attitudes prevailing in the Indian social scene.

There are very few role models of manliness that don’t involve molesting a woman. Bollywood exacerbates the matter by often depicting its film heroes with stalking or related mannerisms. Lacking a role model of masculinity, Indian men often tend to view such mannerisms as worth emulating.

There are many underlying reasons behind the Delhi gang rape and the high occurrence of rape in India, all of which need to be addressed. But social organisations in India need to correct this distorted notion of masculinity by educating the masses on a broader base than done so far and breaking down the prevailing ‘culture of silence’.  It is time that social institutions in India work towards developing a “youth culture” that promotes a healthy, open, positive approach to sexuality and a normal relationship between both genders.

 

Welcome!

Welcome to my blogging adventure. I hope to be sharing my opinions and experience on women’s rights in India. The 2012 Delhi gang rape case has moved me deeply, and so I want to say my piece and hope it makes others think, too. I hope you’ll stick around – let’s see what we can discover together.